server/group: refactor with shared abstractions and fix concurrency issues (#5222)

* server/group: refactor group package with shared abstractions and fix concurrency issues

Extract common patterns into reusable components:
- groupRegistry[G]: generic concurrent map for group lifecycle management
- baseGroup: shared plumbing for listener-based groups (TCP, HTTPS, TCPMux)
- Listener: unified virtual listener replacing 3 identical implementations

Fix concurrency issues:
- Stale-pointer race: isCurrent check + errGroupStale + controller retry loops
- Worker generation safety: pass realLn and acceptCh as params instead of reading mutable fields
- Connection leak: close conn on worker panic recovery path
- ABBA deadlock in HTTP UnRegister: consistent lock ordering (group.mu -> registry.mu)
- Round-robin overflow in HTTPGroup: use unsigned modulo

Add unit tests (17 tests) for registry, listener, and baseGroup.
Add TCPMux group load balancing e2e test.

* server/group: replace tautological assertion with require.NotPanics

* server/group: remove blank line between doc comment and type declaration

server/group/group.go

@@ -24,4 +24,6 @@ var (
 	ErrListenerClosed     = errors.New("group listener closed")
 	ErrGroupDifferentPort = errors.New("group should have same remote port")
 	ErrProxyRepeated      = errors.New("group proxy repeated")
+
+	errGroupStale = errors.New("stale group reference")
 )